Intimacy—Relationship To Others
This discussion is centered on a few beliefs. If you share similar beliefs, this should make sense to you. If you don’t have particular beliefs, you might try these and see if they work. If your beliefs are contrary—you are sure there is NO God, or that creation is malevolent—I am not sure what to say. Living in a world without hope, love, and purpose can be difficult. The good news is that whether you believe or not, the universe will still love you and help you as much as you are open to being helped.
The first belief is that Creation is inherently good. Whether we call this Universe, Spirit, Krishna, Buddha, The One True God, The Goddess, Yehovah, Christ, or Allah, this boundless, omnipotent, omniscient, and unconditionally loving creation is one hundred percent dedicated to helping us evolve into our best selves.
The second belief is that this dedication manifests across the entire gamut of our lives. From the worst to the best, the fragrance of creation permeates every aspect of our existence. Pay attention and breathe deep.
Partners as
Perfect Mirrors
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It is ALL yours
We are here on this planet to become our best possible selves. To facilitate this, Creation, in its infinite love, brings the perfect partners into our lives at precisely the right time.
We learn best from these partners because we are most open and vulnerable with them. With the recognition that everything is our projection, our partner becomes a perfect mirror for us to project upon and reflect back the lessons we need to learn.
It is ALL yours. The deep love you feel from them is yours. The judgments and criticisms you believe came from them are yours. The beauty, the ugliness, the anger, and sadness. The joy, ecstasy, despair, and frustration. The truth is none of this is of your partner’s doing. It is The One True God loving you the best it can by providing opportunities to understand, forgive, and love your deepest patterns and illusions.
The deeper your love and the greater the degree to which you take responsibility for all that happens in your relationship, the greater your learning and joy.
The Arc of Love
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This is the goal
“Love is the opening door; Love is what we came here for; no one could offer you more.” — Lesley Duncan
As you progress there will be moments of transcendence. Instances of what the mystics say is the only true love: the recognition of the same consciousness within others that is within you—an Arc of Love. This is the goal. The rest is just fodder.
These moments can occur anytime. An instance of deep appreciation for each other, or, in the midst of a recurring fight, a look in each other’s eyes and the recognition that the argument is an illusion, and in that emptiness and openness, the Arc of Love occurs. A surrender, submersion, and dissolution of the illusion of separation, and for a brief moment, you are not alone.
Harsh words fill the air,
A pause, a look, understanding—
Love’s arc, unbroken.
— ChatGPT 2024