When To End A Relationship

When to End a Relationship

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When is it time to leave a relationship?

When it no longer serves the evolution of all sentient beings

When it no longer serves the evolution of all sentient beings—which includes you and your partner.

THE ONE TRUE GOD specifically designs our primary relationships so that we can learn. When we open our hearts and become vulnerable at a level we do not share with anyone else, our most profound and often darkest patterns emerge. No other situation, except perhaps being in the presence of a truly enlightened being, will give you the opportunity to observe and love the best and worst of yourself.

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The Decision

When It Is Good and Right

The decision to leave ideally comes from a place of clarity and calm—when you can look at your partner, having learned to love all of them (the worst to the best), and realize that there is no more in this lifetime to be gained with regard to your evolution from being in the relationship.

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I Don’t Want To

Understandable yet…

When a relationship no longer serves us, it is time to go.

Some folks haven’t realized it’s time to go yet. They will continue to suffer until they figure it out. However, those who DO know and still do not leave will suffer far more.

Spirit is absolutely loving and teaches with the kindest of interventions. But when we know what we need to do—not just intellectually but at the core of our being—and we still do not act, Spirit, with absolute kindness and love, will teach harder.

For most of us, arriving at this place of clarity regarding ending our primary relationship is unlikely. The pain is too great, and the lessons are too intense. At this point, we already know the relationship is over. Yet we persist for so many wrong reasons: Finances. Codependence. Neediness. Sexual addiction. Insecurity. Fear of being alone. Staying together for the children.

When you know it is time, do not hesitate. As Mark Twain remarked: “If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning.”

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Staying together “for the children” needs thought. When a relationship stays together for the “good” of the children, you are dooming those children to enter and continue the same miserable relationship you have. What kind of loving parent would do this to their child?

As discussed in the section on loving yourself, we are emotional and mental clones of our parents. If you are a child raised in a loveless marriage of codependence, fear, and abuse, you will almost inevitably create the same situation in your life when you become an adult. Your children deserve to see, absorb, and hopefully replicate in their own lives an individual who does not settle, but chooses to live their best possible life.

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What About Them?

If it’s right for you, it is right for them

Often, one partner will come to this realization first. What is to be done?

The elegance of living The Body Illuminant is that you are assured that ANY decision you make, when oriented to the best life for all beings, cannot do harm. If your partner, who believes that you should still be together is unable to understand at this point in time, perhaps they will later.

As Charles Darwin wrote: “It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”

Resistance is futile. If the flow directs you to freedom and release, let go. Not only for you, but for your partner as well.

As a physician, I have seen numerous “unsolvable” illnesses and chronic conditions disappear when a patient ends a primary relationship that no longer serves them.

On the other hand, a relationship that aligns with the will of THE ONE TRUE GOD can heal or ameliorate many discomforts.