Relationship to Self

Your Health Will Suffer

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” —Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

If your relationship with yourself is antagonistic, your health will suffer.

If your internal monologue is a constant beratement of your physical, emotional, and mental characteristics, your health will suffer.

A Life Devoid of Joy

If you have learned to judge and deny hidden and suppressed parts of yourself, you will live a life devoid of joy, passion, forgiveness, and compassion. You will sour on the world, suffer relentlessly, and most likely die in terrible pain.

What Healthy Looks Like

STOP IT! I would rather this not be your life.

A healthy relationship with yourself is having compassion, acceptance, and love of ALL aspects of yourself—the best to the worst. How do we achieve this? Hard work. Developing a healthy relationship with the self requires the courage to look deep inside and the will to do the work necessary to transcend the multitude of beliefs you have taken on about yourself and the world.

Very little of your perception of yourself is valid, and ANY negative perception of yourself is absolutely false.

The Road Less Traveled

First, understand that the human psyche is complicated—an amalgam of all our experiences from the moment of conception, confounded and filtered through our unique genetic predispositions. Learning to accept all of you is a marathon, not a sprint.

Secondly, and most importantly, make a clear decision to walk this “road less traveled.” To choose to turn the light of consciousness inwards, to discover, to forgive, to love, and to evolve. When you make this choice, The One True God will provide all that you need. You only need to be open to what is offered.

Imitating Love

As children, we take on ALL the patterns of our caretakers: mother, father, siblings, grandparents, and teachers. As young children, we have no concept of good or bad. We only know that deep feeling of aloneness that occurs when the soul finds itself once again separated from The One True God. Our only desire is to be loved, and in our innocence, we hope that deep emptiness will be filled by imitating those from whom we wish love.

We have no discernment as to which of our parents’ thoughts and feelings are good or bad. Thus, we take them all in, filling ourselves with patterns of thought, emotion, and physical mannerisms, unaware of their value or how they will affect our later lives. As young children, we do not know that daddy abusing mommy is terrible. We only know that they will love us if we try to be like them.

The Pattern Repeats

The same motivation we had as children to absorb parental patterns—a lack of love and connection—persists throughout our adult lives. In a vain attempt to fill that emptiness inside us, we have become our parents. Their negative patterns are now ours. And the cycle of abuse continues.

Inherently Good

When we understand that we cannot help who we are and that, up until the present, we have had no choice, it becomes much easier to forgive and have compassion for ourselves. When we observe the atrocities humans impose on each other, it is good to remember that these folks cannot help themselves either. If they could, they would.

Each of us is INHERENTLY GOOD. Each of us is driven towards being better humans. We are all doing the best we can; unfortunately, it is not so great. As a good friend of mine from a past life once said, “Forgive them, for they know not what they do.” This goes for ourselves as well.

Freedom from the Pattern

At this point, you might be thinking, yes, it is all good to understand why we do the things that we do, but how does that change anything?

Love is the answer. Only love and a proper understanding of our negative patterns will allow them to dissipate. When that gaping emptiness of disconnection from spirit is no longer present, we no longer need to obtain love from the world around us. We are free to move through the world unshackled by those patterns of behavior that previously either consciously or unconsciously held us back in all areas of our lives.

Imagine how beautiful your relationships would be if you understood and loved every aspect of yourself and your partner, excelled in a work that aligns with YOUR talents and needs, and developed a relationship with The One True God unfettered by the beliefs, fears, and dogma of millennia of distortion.

You Need to Do It

It is said that there are as many paths to enlightenment as there are souls. I cannot tell you what you need to do—I can only tell you that if you wish to live a healthy life, you need to do it.

The Brighter the Light

Once you have chosen to move from asleep to awake, from denial to consciousness, you and your world will start to change. With this simple act of choosing to improve your relationship with yourself, the light of consciousness will begin to highlight those aspects of your nature that need illumination. The more committed you are to this process, the brighter this light.

The brighter the light, the deeper you look, and those aspects of your psyche that you were taught to judge as evil, dirty, unacceptable, and best not acknowledged will be revealed. If you have the courage and willingness to understand, forgive, and finally embrace these deep, dark, and previously forbidden aspects of yourself, true and lasting change will occur.

As you progress in this journey, you will gain access to that innate wellspring of creativity, energy, compassion, and love that is your true nature. However uncomfortable this inward journey is, the rewards are ten-fold.

Your Choice

Only second to your relationship with Spirit is your relationship with yourself. The importance of mental and emotional well-being on health is well documented.

If you genuinely wish to be healthy, your priorities may need to change. Rather than anesthetizing yourself with the external world’s unlimited distractions, you will need to choose “this road less traveled.” A path through life of ever-increasing awareness, acceptance, and Love of yourself.